Navy SEAL’s trick question (can you get it right?)

Ray “Cash” Care, a former Navy SEAL, asked me a question that flipped my world upside down the other day.

Before I give you the answer, I want to know if you’d get the right answer. 

How many people does it take to counterbalance one negative person?

I’m no math whiz, but if you add +1 to -1, you get 0. So one positive person is all you need, right? Wrong!

You need 7 positive people to counterbalance one negative person.

This is why I constantly tell people they need to ruthlessly “trim the fat” in their lives.

When I say this, I don’t mean their waistlines, I mean the people in their lives, both in-person and on the interwebs.

For many folks, “trimming the fat” of your in-person relationships is a no-brainer. Yet, even with that happening, they’re still left in a sour mood.


Think of how many negative things are on your social media feeds. YouTube. TikTok. Facebook. Instagram.

Facebook’s Whistleblower revealed a few weeks ago that they purposely push-out content that gets you angry. I’m 100% confident they’re not the only social media company that does this.

This is why I’m telling you to not forget to “trim the fat” in the interwebs too!

The internet can easily cause negativity to leak into your lives. And you won’t be the only one affected by this. Your spouse, kids, and even dog will be affected too.

Do you think you’ll be happy after binge-watching conspiracy videos about how Biden has sold the US to China behind closed doors?

Or do you think you’ll be present at the dinner table after seeing “Becky” post on social media how happy she is in her marriage, even though the day before she told you that she discovered the affair her husband was having?

I doubt it.

So why expose yourself to those things.

Your spouse can see it when you’re catching up on your day together right before bed.

Your kids can feel it while you’re building legos with them. 

Your dog can sense it while you’re playing fetch.

I share this with you because I want you to “trim the fat” of negativity both in-person and on the internet.

Unfollow and block all the negativity from your life. So your life is filled with positivity. Which will then make you the lighthouse others can rely on to help them get out of the darkness of negativity.

To your success,



ATTENTION Moms and Dads : This is why I started the Squire Program – a father and son experience like no others. A rite of passage into manhood for boys 13-15 years old.

The next Squire Program takes place January 15th, 2022 and you and your son are invited.
SPECIAL MESSAGE TO SINGLE MOMS: If your son does not have a father figure or trusted male figure in his life please contact me and I will have one of my trusted brothers stand in with your son as he goes through the Squire Program.
Here’s to building the future!